Why is my child suddenly hitting others?

Physical aggression in children often stems from underdeveloped impulse control and emotional regulation. The prefrontal cortex, which governs these abilities, is still maturing in young children.

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When Little Hands Hit: Understanding Aggression

Expert insights provided by Dr. Tina Payne Bryson

Ever find yourself bewildered, watching in slow motion as your child lashes out at a friend? It's easy to feel like you're failing, but remember, these moments can be confusing for your child too; they often lack the words to express their big emotions.

Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D., LCSW

HumanUp Founding Expert

Author of NYT Bestsellers The Whole-Brain Child & No-Drama Discipline
Founder & Executive Director, The Center for Connection
Pediatric Psychotherapist & Mom of 3

The Brain Science Behind Physical Aggression

Physical aggression in children is often a result of immature brain development, particularly in areas responsible for impulse control and emotional processing.

Impulse Control: The prefrontal cortex, crucial for decision-making and self-control, is still developing in children. This makes it challenging for them to pause and think before acting.
Emotional Regulation: Young children have intense emotions that are hard to manage due to still-developing neural pathways for emotional regulation, leading to physical outbursts when overwhelmed.
Social Understanding: Children's capacity to understand others' perspectives is limited, making it difficult for them to navigate social interactions without resorting to physical means.

Why Generic Advice Fails

Quick-fix solutions found on social media often overlook the complex interplay of brain development and individual family dynamics that contribute to a child's behavior. Without considering these unique factors, generic advice is unlikely to lead to lasting change.

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